Ode to a Friend

This is for my friend who no longer exists as a friend- the friendship has ended...but I still hope........

Thank You for being there when I needed you most, those were days when things were not going right for me. And you were there holding my hand giving me the much needed strength.

Its been a long journey since then....and we have always been there for each other unconditionally. But somewhere down the line things went wrong- I erred...and hurt you.

No excuses my friend- I made a mistake....

And that's that........

I hope u r fine where ever you are.....

If ever you need me just give me a call-"hum hain wahin hum the jahan........"

Ten Commandments-Direct Dil Se

1. It is nice to be lazy, especially on weekends.

2. Procrastination is a must, haste makes waste

3. Plagiarism is good, practice it to be successful.

4. Perfection is a Myth-Let it remain so.

5. Perception Builds Characters- Help Build Perception

6. If one way is right and one is wrong- Choose the easier one

7. Life without challenges is Bland, so dont deal with them, let them remain intact

8. Truth creates complications- stay away from Complications

9. Teamwork is important , You should cheer from the Stands

10. Enjoy life to the Hilt, No day is Dry Day

Unsettlingly Settled

YES and NO.......

Yes- I do plan to get married eventually

No- There is no one special in my life right now....

How many times do I need to answer these questions...If I charged a dollar for everytime I answered this question, I would probably have a swiss bank account by now...

Hell we r perpetually in this transition state- it is cool to venture out of homes and do professional courses and take up jobs with big corporate names and live independently...Great- but then after 2-3-4 years of working life suddenly there is this age old custom that comes back to haunt us-Good Girls get married and settle down- settle down to what?? Microsoft Word gives the meaning of " settle down" as the following- Calm Down, Relax, Quiet Down, Become Less Restless, snuggle down, slow down,take it easy......Well Well Well I am doing all of the above happily-thank you very much:)
I am as calm and comfortable as it gets-gosh i havent even changed jobs since the last 2 years....I party, I enjoy, I read, I sleep and I also work:) so how does one figure out that I am unsettled in anyway??

So the transition phase that I am talking about is our Urban India- We have evolved into knowledge workers, understand the value of making quick bucks in a fast forward mode, dream of hitting billions(USD)( in our bank accounts) before we are forty , know more about what is happening in US economy than India- and yet getting flats for tenancy for single women is still a problem, live-in relationships are unheard of except in Bombay( all those who say Bangalore is upto par please call me up for further discussions) divorce is a bad word....and Marraige is the ultimate path to Nirvana.....

I agree sharing ur life with someone u love, having a happy family is a beautiful thing-But let me decide on how I want to achieve this beautiful thing.

I know my grandmom was a mother of 2 at my age, but her life and times were different. So why compare 2 variables??

And for God's sake stop putting these questions to my Mom- Talk to me:)

Dhokha hai pyar....

Pyar hai dokha.... heard this song on my way to office while sitting in the cab....
Dhoondega koi bahana dhoondega koi nishaana, dil ka bazaar yahan toh, dil ko dilon se bachana....crooned Alisha Chinai, on checking I found it being a part of the entirely forgettable movie Murder's music album-talk of diamonds in a coal mine!!! lovely song, with a sixties intonation and lilt-Alisha has done full justice to the song....and of course the lyrics.....how many times have i heard this- getting betrayed is probably a universally old phenomenon.....and yet nobody stops loving :)
Being a self proclaimed Agony Aunt I can tell many stories of what happens next...after being dumped............But I won't ..that is because of another self determined NDA agreement between such affected parties and me:)
All I can say is dont ever love anyone more than u love yourself- Selfish as it might sound-it works miracles in acting as a firewall and safeguarding you from making a fool of yourself...Nothing or nobody is more important(parents being the exception of course)than you, dont let someone ruin ur life- preserve ur dignity and self esteem at all costs. If one has to lose - lose in such a way that you take the punch out of the winner's joy:)
And if someone kicks you go and kick that someone twice as hard...And then go out and have a party and remember me:)
So dil ko bachana dokha na khana, dhokha hai pyar, pyar hai dhoka................