Do Women make worse Bosses

It's a question that came to my mind- after reading to a lot of tales about women in power in different Industries and Functions- Are women in power and responsible positions obsessed with proving their mettle? Do they go on a overdrive leading to discontentment within their teams?Is it because they are still a minority that they suffer from insecurities ? Look at the examples below-

Pooja Bhatt- Director and Producer of Indian Feature Films- Nearly every movie that she produces/directors gets noticed because of some controversy with the staff-either the actors or the Film Crew- the nauture of complaints are nearly the same- Bad Behaviour, not keeping promises in terms of roles, remunerations, petty behaviour like chopping of roles etc etc. I am not sure though if this is a publicity stunt- if it is- it is quite a juvenile one which obviously doesn't seem to be working- given the box office results of her films

Ektaa Kapoor- Another one in the same or rather similar industry- She is the queen of Indian Television - and she demands attention apparently like a queen in ways that would put Cleopatra to shame.Apparently she dictates her staff about which informal gatherings they should attend or they shouldn't attend, replaces cast on minor disputes wihout any heed to contracts etc. Her recent appearance on a popular Chat Show with her "yes" Men in tow- kind of validated all the rumours- If I had a production house and was surrounded by cronies who say "yes" to everything I say- I would have drowned in embarrassment

Kiran Bedi- She has always made news for various resons and has always made us proud also. But at the same time there have been lesser known reports of her subordinates not being happy with her, her high-handedness has always been a corridor discussion in the IPS Cadre. What's more she is highly unapologetic about her behaviour and insists on it given the fact that she is the face of Indian Police Service( which is no mean feat by any standards of course)

There are numerous other examples from the corporate world that I keep hearing all the time-one in my org- a very simple one but very indicative
In a org that prides itself on being one of the first to introduce the "first name" culture- my female boss manages to get many of her reportees to call her "Madam" and is quite happy about it:)There are other 9 Directors in the org -all of them Male- have never heard anyone of them doing that- Even Gates answers to Bill:)))

Of course these are very few examples and I would be quite happy to know about instances contradicting my assumption:))

The Difference Between Men and Women

I just HAD TO share this!!! It's NOT written by me but whoever wrote it did a brilliant job.
Let's say a guy named Fred is attracted to a woman named Martha. He asks her out to a movie; she accepts; they have a pretty good time. A few nights later he asks her out to dinner, and again they enjoy themselves. They continue to see each other regularly, and after a while neither one of them is seeing anybody else.

And then, one evening when they're driving home, a thought occurs to Martha, and, without really thinking, she says it aloud: "Do you realize that, as of tonight, we've been seeing each other for exactly six months?"

And then, there is silence in the car.

To Martha, it seems like a very loud silence. She thinks to herself: I wonder if it bothers him that I said that. Maybe he's been feeling confined by our relationship; maybe he thinks I'm trying to push him into some kind of obligation that he doesn't want, or isn't sure of.

And Fred is thinking: Gosh. Six months.

And Martha is thinking: But, hey, I'm not so sure I want this kind of relationship either. Sometimes I wish I had a little more space, so I'd have time to think about whether I really want us to keep going the way we are, moving steadily towards, I mean, where are we going? Are we just going to keep seeing each other at this level of intimacy? Are we heading toward marriage? Toward children? Toward a lifetime together? Am I ready for that level of commitment? Do I really even know this person?

And Fred is thinking: ...so that means it was...let's see...February when we started going out, which was right after I had the car at the dealer's, which means...lemme check the odometer...Whoa! I am way overdue for an oil change here.

And Martha is thinking: He's upset. I can see it on his face. Maybe I'm reading this completely wrong. Maybe he wants more from our relationship, more intimacy, more commitment; maybe he has sensed - even before I sensed it - that I was feeling some reservations. Yes, I bet that's it. That's why he's so reluctant to say anything about his own feelings. He's afraid of being rejected.

And Fred is thinking: And I'm gonna have them look at the transmission again. I don't care what those morons say, it's still not shifting right. And they better not try to blame it on the cold weather this time. What cold weather? It's 87 degrees out, and this thing is shifting like a garbage truck, and I paid those incompetent thieves $600.

And Martha is thinking: He's angry. And I don't blame him. I'd be angry, too. I feel so guilty, putting him through this, but I can't help the way I feel. I'm just not sure.

And Fred is thinking: They'll probably say it's only a 90-day warranty...scumballs.

And Martha is thinking: Maybe I'm just too idealistic, waiting for a knight to come riding up on his white horse, when I'm sitting right next to a perfectly good person, a person I enjoy being with, a person I truly do care about, a person who seems to truly care about me. A person who is in pain because of my self-centered, schoolgirl romantic fantasy.

And Fred is thinking: Warranty? They want a warranty? I'll give them a warranty. I'll take their warranty and stick it right up their...

"Fred," Martha says aloud.

"What?" says Fred, startled.

"Please don't torture yourself like this," she says, her eyes beginning to brim with tears. "Maybe I should never have...oh dear, I feel so..."(She breaks down, sobbing.)

"What?" says Fred.

"I'm such a fool," Martha sobs. "I mean, I know there's no knight. I really know that. It's silly. There's no knight, and there's no horse."

"There's no horse?" says Fred.

"You think I'm a fool, don't you?" Martha says.

"No!" says Fred, glad to finally know the correct answer.

"It's just that...it's that I...I need some time," Martha says. (There is a 15-second pause while Fred, thinking as fast as he can, tries to come up with a safe response. Finally he comes up with one that he thinks might work.)

"Yes," he says. (Martha, deeply moved, touches his hand.)

"Oh, Fred, do you really feel that way?" she says.

"What way?" says Fred.

"That way about time," says Martha.

"Oh," says Fred. "Yes." (Martha turns to face him and gazes deeply into his eyes, causing him to become very nervous about what she might say next, especially if it involves a horse. At last she speaks.)

"Thank you, Fred," she says.

"Thank you," says Fred.

Then he takes her home, and she lies on her bed, a conflicted, tortured soul, and weeps until dawn, whereas when Fred gets back to his place, he opens a bag of Doritos, turns on the TV, and immediately becomes deeply involved in a rerun of a college basketball game between two South Dakota junior colleges that he has never heard of. A tiny voice in the far recesses of his mind tells him that something major was going on back there in the car, but he is pretty sure there is no way he would ever understand what, and so he figures it's better if he doesn't think about it.

The next day Martha will call her closest friend, or perhaps two of them, and they will talk about this situation for six straight hours. In painstaking detail, they will analyze everything she said and everything he said, going over it time and time again, exploring every word, ex-pression, and gesture for nuances of meaning, considering every possible ramification.

They will continue to discuss this subject, off and on, for weeks, maybe months, never reaching any definite conclusions, but never getting bored with it either.

Meanwhile, Fred, while playing racquetball one day with a mutual friend of his and Martha's, will pause just before serving, frown, and say: "Norm, did Martha ever own a horse?"

And that's the difference between men and women.

The Woman in your Life

Got this email from a friend and colleague- Thanks Neo:)




Very well written................Its awesome.. girls def u should read and feel proud.. guys read and understand


Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;


Who is earning almost as much as you do;

One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;


One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements

One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;

One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name

One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen


One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;


One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;


Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise

One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;

One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;

One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.

But not many guys understand this...

Why we "shout from the rooftops"

My friend asked me- "Why do you women need to shout from the rooftops about your independence and maturity -and the fact that you don't need a man to make you happy. Who's asking anyways and who's interested in what you women do".

Had this question come from a lesser man I wouldnt have given a damn to this thought, but he is one of the few guys I have met who don't carry old stereotypes and can accept mistakes without mincing words..so that set me thinking...and here is what I think could be the reason for what he calls us "we shouting from the rooftops"

1. We don't shout from the rooftops- to start off with- it's just that we are more vocal and verbose about our opinions-and why not- we think our opinions are not opinionated meaning they are not biased or based on seeing one side of the picture. We have been oriented to be neutral, level headed and truthful in every aspect and don't see the reason to hold back our views

2. The fact that we focus more on the man-woman relationship issue is because this is a huge grey area, with loads of things undefined especially in the urban scenario.While urban women have moved a lot and evolved in terms of their thought processes, perception, values etc, somewhr the urban young man is lagging in his ideas, most of them have used their education to enhance their employability , not their EQ. Most of them r still struggling to bridge the gap between what they have
seen as a part of growing up and NOW

3.Its also a fact that its no use "casting pearls before a swine"- In other words we also would not have wasted out time, effort, energies if we felt that it is falling on deaf ears or ears who can't understand or take it- So guys its actually a credit and a compliment to you- we think you can take a slightly bitter pill and accept a different side of the same story

So my friend if you are reading this- I hope I have been able to answer your query-If not .....please let me know your views....and let's take this further- nothing like a coffee and a discussion with an intelligent man:))

Single Ergo Happy:))

Once a woman hits a certain age, the race to the altar is on. With the pressure that society-not to mention friends and family-puts on us, it can feel like the worst thing in the world to be single. But not so! In this excerpt from The Bridal Wave, authors Erin Torneo and Valerie Cabrera Krause set all of us single women straight on why we should be living it up during our “me” years!

Sit Back And Enjoy!
For most of our adolescence we want to be older than we are: We buy Seventeen magazine when we're twelve, finagle fake IDs so we can get into twenty-one-and-over clubs when we're seventeen. Once we're in high school, we want to skip on ahead to college (and college boys). Rarely do we sit back and enjoy where we are right now. Our twenties and thirties are a time of getting to know ourselves, but just when we are figuring out how to live on our own as adults, our friends start talking about cake-cutting fees and our family begins to question our lack of the ultimate accessory: a husband. Great. How can you feel good about where you are?

Here's the thing: your single days are numbered, and once they're gone, they're gone (barring a divorce, which you smart readers will avoid, having read this book).

What you'll miss about being single



Take it from the late, great Kate (Hepburn): “If you want to sacrifice the admiration of many men for the criticism of one, go ahead, get married.”

1.Going to the gym whenever you want, even at midnight. Nobody is waiting for you to get home.
2.Eating chips and salsa for dinner. Getting married does not a gourmet make, but busting out the chips and salsa for dinner doesn't really work for a guy.
3.Plucking your eyebrows for hours on end without someone asking what the heck is going on in there.
4.Going out after work with friends without having to call home to “check in.” A wedding band doesn't mean you'll never go out for happy hour, but it does mean calling to make sure it's cool with your hubby (in an evolved, non-permission-slip-type way).
5.The grass is always greener (admissions from anonymous married women)

“If I were single again, I would really learn how to flirt. I feel like I got married before I really grew into my body. I would love to go out and really go for it.”

“Sure, I love my husband, but sometimes I wish I could blink my eyes and he would be gone. I don't want him to die, I just want him to not exist for a little so I could be single again and just worry about myself.”

“I was so worried about never getting married that I married the first guy who showed interest in me. We're happy together, but I wonder if I had just waited a bit longer, where would I be

Why being unmarried rocks



1.You aren't in an unhappy marriage. We repeat: you aren't in an unhappy marriage. Married couples may seem like they have it all, but you have no idea what happens behind closed doors.
2.You can do what you want when you want. Feel like leaving a papier-mâché project unfinished on the dining table? Do it. Want to watch an entire season of Grey's Anatomy in one sitting? Do it!
You never know when or where you are going to meet the next guy you'll fall madly in love (or lust) with, so every day is another day that it could happen. That's pretty cool.
3.A first date doesn't pee with the bathroom door open. (If he does, head for the hills!)
4.You have more time to hang with all of your obnoxious girlfriends--you know, the ones your boyfriends never like but you think are hilarious.
No in-laws. 'Nuff said.
5.Hookups! You can flirt the night away with a guy just for fun even if you have no interest in him. You can even make out with him.
All of your hard-earned cash can be spent on priority number one: you.
No stinky man laundry.
6.You can move to another city just because you like its name without having to worry about whether or not he wants to go or if he'll be able to find a job.

Commitment Phobia......

Why Are Men Commitment phobic?? Why does the topic of marraige scare away even the smartest of them:)

What do they lose anyway-They get to keep their surnames, their locations, their jobs, their homes, their everything....

They talk of losing Independence....But whenever I see my married friends-both guys and gals -its the wife who rushes back home early to cook dinner, to clean the house for the party, to greet the visiting in-laws....It is the wife who has to be careful about wat she wears in presence of whom, it the wife who has to answer questions like-" when do u plan to start a family".....


When will guys learn to accept that pleasures in life come with their share of responbilities -and one cant have the former without the latter- Is it too much to ask anyways??

Sleeping?...Alone???

Heard this statement for the nth time today- "women sleep around to get favours, raises, promotions etc".....
I wonder wat the man is doing when a woman is supposedly sleeping with him-checking his emails?? Is he not a part of the act? Is he being raped? Why does he allow himself to be used if at all he is being used....
I wonder if this is a language issue or a perception issue......

Men Don't Understand

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, observing his wife turning back and forth,

looking at herself in the mirror.

Since her birthday was not far off, he asked what she'd like to have

for her Birthday.

I'd like to be six again, she replied, still looking in the mirror.

On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big

bowl of Lucky Charms, and then took her to Six Flags theme park. What a day!

He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, the

Screaming Monster Roller Coaster... everything there was.

Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park.

Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.

He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal

with extra fries and a chocolate shake.

Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite

candy,M&M's.

What a fabulous adventure !

Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed

exhausted.

He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked, Well

Dear, what was it like being six again ? ?

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed.

I meant my Dress Size, you dumb ass!!


The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he is going to
get it wrong.

Provoked

Oh Yes I was.....Big Time......
And I had a very good reason for it...I wonder why he did wat he did- that is stare unabashedly at my twin assets...The bloke had come for a interview with Microsoft....For a minute I thought I was mistaken.....But of course I realized the guy was upto no good....
The interview lasted for exactly 7 mins- my shortest yet.
I got a vicious pleasure writing the Regret e-mail- sugarcoating it appropriately - telling him how we don't have a place for him.I wish I could have told him - "we need people with stronger moral fibre dude".

A passing thought came to my mind- what would have the situation been had I been interviewed by him- well I guess i would have had more freedom to slap him.

I take pride in the fact that I am a woman- Independent, Smart and Brave-I don't need a man to protect me, buy me diamonds or a house or a car- I can do that myself.
I need a man to be friends with me, to be a soulmate , to be a companion...nothing more- nothing less.I can be your Best Friend- and your Worst Enemy too-And I am a prototype -of everyone of my type...
The smile on my face is not a sign of weakness-its our strength....

Don't even try to tamper with my dignity- the last time a person tried that- a colleague- he was out of his job in less than two hours......
And that is just a mild repurcussion.......

Categories of Urbane Women

Sometime later I would like to classify guys as well-




Miss Sweet

Miss Sweet is a woman who's positive, content with her life, always upbeat — and just a blast to be around. She's a genuine person without a bitch bone in her body. She's always truly happy to see you and you find yourself looking forward to spending time with her. Miss Sweets are usually snapped up out of the dating market right away, so they're pretty rare. But if you can find one, you've got a real treasure on your hands.

Miss Equality

This type of woman is a true feminist — not one of the radical man-haters, or the hypocritical pseudo-feminists who think that equality means "I demand equal rights and an equal salary, but a man still has to pay for me." The Miss Equalitys of the world genuinely like men, and understand that equality means equality across the board, from holding the door open to fighting on the front lines. They believe that a relationship should be a 50/50 partnership, and are more than willing to shoulder their half of the responsibilities and dating expenses — just because it's the right thing to do.

Miss Sexual

You should be so lucky to encounter one of these! Miss Sexual loves men and loves sex — and makes no bones about it. She's not selling it, she's not using it as a tool to manipulate men — she just naturally craves it. Miss Sexual is not to be confused with a nymphomaniac, who suffers from psychological problems — rather, she has somehow bypassed the female societal training of auctioning off the use of her vagina to the highest bidder. For this reason, most other women hate her, because she's giving it away free of charge. But men love her because she's a free spirit who's actually honest about her sex drive. Very rare, but worth searching the ends of the earth for.

Miss Best Friend

Closely aligned with Miss Sweet, Miss Best Friend is another joy to be around. She's the kind of woman you're totally in sync with — you like the same things, watch the same TV shows, enjoy going to the same places. You can spend five minutes with her and think you've known her for years. She's always on your side, laughs at all your jokes and calls you just to say "hi" because she genuinely misses you. She's great just to hang with. A word of warning, though — with Miss Best Friend, you have to make your sexual interest known from day one because if she gets it into her head that you are going to be "just friends," it's almost impossible to change her mind.

Miss Straightforward

This is the type of woman who knows how to communicate. With Miss Straightforward, there are no games, no expecting men to be mind readers, no behavior based on ridiculous, female-biased advice from articles in Cosmo or The Rules. Miss Straightforward will pick up the phone and ask you out. She will do what she says she will do — not say one thing and do just the opposite. Although she may be blunt at times, at least you'll know where you stand and you'll never have to spend hours trying to decode contradictory or emotion-based female behavior.

Miss Independent

This is a good woman to find if you don't have a lot of time to invest in a relationship or you're the type of guy who needs a lot of space. Miss Independent has a real life of her own and is happily going in her own positive direction. She's the type who wants a man in her life, but doesn't need a man in her life. And she certainly isn't looking for men to solve all her problems or blame when things don't go her way.

Miss No Pressure

While many women are chomping at the bit to get married, Miss No Pressure hasn't fallen prey to any such agenda. She's happy just to be with you. So you don't get any "Where is our relationship going?" or hint-dropping about the future or window-shopping at the jewelry store. She may want to get married at some point, but she's in no hurry — she thinks that if it happens, it will just happen naturally.

Miss Secure

Miss Secure accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good points, as well as her bad. And she feels the same about you. Miss Secure doesn't need constant attention to shore up a sagging ego, has tons of self-esteem and is always going in her own positive direction.

Miss Personality

Miss Personality is a great find. She might not be up for first prize in a beauty contest (although she could be), but her intelligence, wit and sparkling presence just light up the room, and she draws people like a magnet. Her personality is so charming that it easily overcomes any deficiencies she might have in the looks department, just because she's so great to be with.

Miss Low-Maintenance

The rarest of the rare, Miss Low-Maintenance is the most atypical of modern women. She really doesn't care about how much money you have — she just likes you for yourself and not for what she can take from you. She's likely to be a true feminist, and will gladly pay her share of the dating expenses. If you can find a Miss Low-Maintenance, hang on to her for dear life!

Miss Right for You

A lot of guys choose women who are "arm candy" — good-looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. That's all well and good, but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of looks, age or social status — or what any other guy thinks — then you have definitely won at the mating game.

7 Tactics for women to call it Quits

"Sayonara." "Get lost." "We need to talk..." Whether you're looking to lessen the sting or hit 'em with your best shot, the following techniques are sure to accomplish the trickiest part of any relationship: ending it.

The "We Need to Talk" Talk
A State of the Union address is recommended for anyone wishing to secede, so to speak, with some semblance of dignity.
Pros: Talking things over can soothe hurt feelings and potentially salvage the friendship.
Cons: Brace yourself for histrionics, notes Lynda Twardowski, 31, from Traverse City, MI. "When I finally managed to peel the guy off me, tears streamed down his face and he babbled like a madman."
Ouch factor: Three Band-Aids

The "Dear John"
Who needs a messy confrontation when a note, email or well-timed voice mail can spare you from having to witness the devastation?
Pros: Composing your thoughts lets you control the situation. "I'm a big fan of the 'Dear John' letter," says Megan Lane Patrick, age 30, of Cincinnati. "That way, I can make all my points without crying or forgetting what I want to say."
Cons: Sure, it's the coward's route. But, considering you'll likely be vilified regardless, what's one more strike against you?
Ouch factor: Two Band-Aids

The Downsize
Going on hiatus gives you the green light to see other people while letting you ease out of the relationship under the guise of "needing space."
Pros: A time-out isn't as catastrophic as a full-fledged breakup, since it offers a sliver of hope that the relationship might eventually resume. Plus, it leaves the door open for booty calls.
Cons: Having to envision each other with someone else is emotionally taxing for lovers in limbo. "Every time I went on a new date, I kept wondering if she was out with someone new, too," says Mike Fowler, 33, of Los Angeles. "It drove me nuts."
Ouch factor: Two Band-Aids

The Fizzle
Whether you conveniently "forget" an anniversary or wait days to return an email, your general apathy will soon make it obvious that your boots are made for walkin'.
Pros: If you're on the same page, the mutual fade-out can be painless, says Lynn Reynolds, 32, of Covington, KY: "We told each other, 'Give me a call,' but we knew we'd had enough of each other. Neither of us called and there were no hurt feelings."
Cons: Some people just don't get subtle brush-offs. If your ex is the determined sort, you'll need to invest in caller ID.
Ouch factor: One Band-Aid

Dumping by Proxy
Not keen on the business of crushing souls? In the immortal words of Dionne Warwick, that's what friends are for.
Pros: Passing the buck is easier than getting your own hands dirty. Heck, maybe your friend and your ex will hit it off!
Cons: You're only adding insult to injury by having a random third party be witness to your ex's humiliation, as Jessica Callahan, 32, from Bristol, CT, attests. "I was shocked and embarrassed," she notes, after her boyfriend's buddy told her she was history. "But I wasn't angry. That would come later when I realized it was the only explanation I would get."
Ouch factor: Four Band-Aids

The Blame Game
Breaking up is easier when you can provoke the other person to initiate it for you.
Pros: Abdicating all responsibility puts you in the clear, says Michele Pezzuti, 31, of Staten Island, NY: "I waited till my boyfriend did something minor, then made a big stink about it so he could be to blame, thus making the breakup his fault."
Cons: Heaping guilt on someone else just to avoid your own verges on "evil genius" territory. Yet if your partner has the patience of a saint, getting him or her to dump you can be near i impossible.
Ouch factor: Three Band-Aids

The Alien Abduction
Of course, if all else fails, consider the good old-fashioned vanishing act.
Pros: Hiding lets you avoid confrontation, notes Angela Gleeson, 25, of Newburgh, NY, who remembers her own "one that got away" in the very literal sense. "He was supposed to get to my place at 8, and he just never showed. I called him several times, but he never called back. I've never heard from him since."
Cons: You'll invariably leave your ex wondering if you got in an accident or were kidnapped, prompting him or her to show up at your place in a frenzy or call the cops to report a missing person. Plus, you'll feel like a total heel if you ever accidentally cross paths with that person again.
Ouch factor: Five Band-Aids


Authored by-Amy Helmes and Meg Leder

Myths about Women

The Seven Myths Men Believe about Women

Women are never satisfied

Women are high maintenance

Women want to control men

Women are jealous and possessive

Women are too emotional

Women who appear to be strong and competent don't need to be taken care of

Women want to rob men of their freedom

Men.............

1. The nice men are ugly.

2. The handsome men are not nice.

3. The handsome and nice men are gay.

4. The handsome, nice, and heterosexual men are married.

5. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money.

6. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money.

7. The handsome men without money are after our money.

8. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough.

9. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have no money, are cowards.

10. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have money and thank God are straight, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE!!!

11. The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative.


NOW...WHO THE HELL UNDERSTANDS MEN.....

Biggest Advantage of being a Women

There are a million reasons to be happy you ended up with two X chromosomes -- shoe shopping, girls' nights, and cheaper insurance, just to name a few. This was a survey done -women were asked to answer- "What in your opinion is the biggest advantage of being a woman?"
Some of the more interesting answers-




1. The biggest advantage of being a woman the art of being able to talk the hind legs off a donkey.



2.Hello?! Boobs! I love having boobs. They're my best accessory!



3.The best thing about being a woman is the variety. As women, we experience so many changes in our bodies and minds over the course of our lives. We get to experience life in a whole different way than men do, and I love that.



4.I love having lots of dressing options and looking pretty. It would be terrible to be a man and have to choose between the blue suit or the blue suit.



5.The "superpower" of being able to grow another life inside you, and produce the food to feed it too.



6. Women have so many choices. They can work or stay home. Be a nurse or a soldier. Despite the fact that we think men have it good, ask a man who has chosen a career viewed as predominantly for women, like a secretary or a nurse, or one who has chosen to stay home and raise the kids while Mom works. They get a lot of flack and are looked on as less of a man.



7.Multiple O's.



8.My six-year-old son answered this one for me a couple nights ago. All snuggled up beside me in his jammies, he says very sincerely, "It's better to be a girl than a boy." When I asked him why he thought that, he said, "Because the kids always love you best."



9.A woman can do all the things that women naturally do and she can do most things a man can do also. A woman can keep a house looking like something out of House Beautiful, a woman can make a delicious meal from leftovers, a woman can create life. A woman can plow the north 40, hot coat the roof, milk the cows, come in, take a bath, and be ready for a night on the town. Men can't even put a dish in the sink.

Unsettlingly Settled

YES and NO.......

Yes- I do plan to get married eventually

No- There is no one special in my life right now....

How many times do I need to answer these questions...If I charged a dollar for everytime I answered this question, I would probably have a swiss bank account by now...

Hell we r perpetually in this transition state- it is cool to venture out of homes and do professional courses and take up jobs with big corporate names and live independently...Great- but then after 2-3-4 years of working life suddenly there is this age old custom that comes back to haunt us-Good Girls get married and settle down- settle down to what?? Microsoft Word gives the meaning of " settle down" as the following- Calm Down, Relax, Quiet Down, Become Less Restless, snuggle down, slow down,take it easy......Well Well Well I am doing all of the above happily-thank you very much:)
I am as calm and comfortable as it gets-gosh i havent even changed jobs since the last 2 years....I party, I enjoy, I read, I sleep and I also work:) so how does one figure out that I am unsettled in anyway??

So the transition phase that I am talking about is our Urban India- We have evolved into knowledge workers, understand the value of making quick bucks in a fast forward mode, dream of hitting billions(USD)( in our bank accounts) before we are forty , know more about what is happening in US economy than India- and yet getting flats for tenancy for single women is still a problem, live-in relationships are unheard of except in Bombay( all those who say Bangalore is upto par please call me up for further discussions) divorce is a bad word....and Marraige is the ultimate path to Nirvana.....

I agree sharing ur life with someone u love, having a happy family is a beautiful thing-But let me decide on how I want to achieve this beautiful thing.

I know my grandmom was a mother of 2 at my age, but her life and times were different. So why compare 2 variables??

And for God's sake stop putting these questions to my Mom- Talk to me:)